Families of the Heart (a Commentary on the Transmission)
by Daniel Jacob
Original Transmission is HERE
In my two previous segments (Part One, Part Two) we've been addressing the idea of one-parent families, and the hardship they can cause in the life of a child. But really, what is the underlying source of that hardship? Is it the tangible reality of how things are? I think not. Children are incredibly resilient beings. Rather, I believe the hardship comes from our societal JUDGMENT of how things are, measured against to how we think things should be.
Right away, I can hear some readers saying: "Well, Daniel, if you believe this to be so, then why all this ranting about missing fathers and mothers?" And that's a fair question. So here goes. I'm ranting in the same way the God of the Bible ranted at his people, through the prophets and teachers of old. In the Old Testament, there was a LAW in place, an AGREEMENT between God and His people. "If you follow Me, and keep my Laws, then you will be My people and I will be your God." God kept his part of the bargain, but the people broke theirs. And so, there was ranting.
We can speak all we want about God's "Original Design" for humanity, and how we may have all strayed from it. "All we, like sheep, have gone astray”, blah, blah, blah. By saying this, I don't disrespect God's right to be angry, nor do I wish to de-emphasize the fact that His people DIDN'T obey His laws. We can't even obey OUR OWN LAWS these days, and that's just the point. The "Old Testament" (literally, "The Old Agreement") was broken. And a New Agreement had to be put in its place.
The Pauline Epistles spend considerable time talking about this "New Law" of Salvation through Grace, based on the redemptive work of God's son on the cross. And regardless of what we wish to believe about that, as New Agers, I find one of the points Paul makes in his writings especially interesting. In the Book of Romans, he spends considerable time illustrating how God never really expected the Jews to keep His Laws. God only gave us Laws to illustrate how futile it is for humans to try and obey laws. We're stubborn and deceitful (according to God) and we'll screw up every time! Paul then goes on to prepare his readers for the redemptive work of Jesus Christ when He died for our sins.
All right. Enough dogma. I studied this stuff in my earlier days to the point that it nearly made me crazy, especially when I heard people speaking about Old Testament,, New Testament, sheep who've gone astray, Gospel Messages, blah, blah, blah. And I watched the world getting bleaker, and I saw more laws being put on the books, and more criminals put in prison, and so on and so forth.
When we place our focus solely upon form and function, an idealized pattern will eventually appear. A pattern, say, like The Constitution of the United States. A clear blueprint for living! We tell ourselves: "This is how things should be." We lift our glasses to the blueprint, we speak at length about its merits, and we promise diligently that this is what we'll do. As an adult, I have become "seasoned" to the treacherous heart of politicized man. I mean, you never really get used to it, but, after awhile, I manage to sustain myself in a place where I'm not devastated every time I turn on the news. But children are far more vulnerable, more trusting, and therein is the hardship.
When we make promises to politicians, or even to God, we are conversing with "seasoned" professionals, who understand fully the dark side of human nature. But when we make promises to a child, a newly budding flower of vulnerability and trust, we'd best MEAN what we say or it's better not to say anything at all.
Law And Disorder
So here we are in the 21st Century. We make laws, we form expectations, and then we go right out and violate them. Not all of us, mind you, but a goodly number of us. We hire police to enforce our laws, judges to hear the evidence, and then we build prisons where we incarcerate those who just can't seem to be follow the idealized pattern.
Whether or not a person believes the Bible to be the Word of God, one has to admit that the Bible's assessment of humanity ("You don't really follow laws, you tend to break them") is pretty accurate. Why, then, do we spend so much time and money making and enforcing laws? It would appear that there is something within us that earnestly WANTS to believe we are different than we are. And we perpetuate that illusion by citing examples of people who DO follow laws, while denigrating those who break them.
Penal Law assumes that some people are going to mess up, and some people aren't. Penal Law seeks to protect those who don't mess up by separating them from those who do. The Law of Grace reminds us that ALL PEOPLE, regardless of their works, are sinful and fall short of the Glory of God. The fact that only SOME people get caught violating the rules doesn't erase that fact one iota. So why do we design our whole social system around a premise that has already been proven false? More on that in our next segment.
For right now, though, let’s apply this to the Nuclear Family. What does the Bible say? "All we, like sheep, have gone astray, everyone to his own way."
Oh my! Not only do we tend not to obey laws, we also tend to scatter instead of gather, don't we? Well, not entirely. We DO gather, primarily because we need each other to survive. What we don't always like doing is gathering according to a set pattern or enforced ideal. The minute the ideal or promise is made, the sheep tend to get anxious again and wander off.
We mentioned earlier that marriage and the concept of marital fidelity was created so that family goods and property could be passed on, from generation to generation, in an orderly fashion. Love had very little to do with it back then. Some contend that love has very little to do with things today, either. Now let's add another view to the picture: The Nuclear Family was created so that responsibility could be passed, from generation to generation, about who is supposed to take care of who.
Once again, structurally, love often has very little to do with it. The law decrees: "If you have a child, it is your responsibility to support him or her. If you don't do this, you're a criminal." Social Contracts. Binding Agreements. These are instruments designed to outline EXPECTATIONS and RIGHTS, which some people tend to honor and others tend to violate. The form and the function part are all handled. But how about that third element? Feeling. What about that?
Agreements relating to the family are formally classified as "Family Law." And what do we KNOW about humanity when it comes to laws? We tend to violate them. The fact that some folks appear to keep the law merely blinds us to the fact that ALL PEOPLE are sinful, and fall short of the glory of God. Or, so say the scriptures. So we end up with a polarized field. On one side, there are "law-abiding citizens," and on the other side, there are "criminals." The rate of incarceration in the U.S. alone is expanding so rapidly that one statistician warned that there may come a time when we have more people in jail than out.
In America, we say: "In God we trust." And our kids listen. They repeat back to us: "In God we trust." And even as these words echo from their little lips, we go right out and VIOLATE what we just said to them, not by breaking laws, but by MAKING LAWS in the first place.
God said: "You tend not to keep laws." But here we are, making and enforcing them anyway, to the tune of billions and billions of dollars.
Say What You Mean, Mean What You Say
The real damage being done to our kids today is not just the fault of Deadbeat Dads or Runaway Moms. It is being done by ALL OF US, as we contend that an idealized situation exists, against which a person's life can be judged. And we hold that over each other, in a whole host of ways.
It is illusion. But we seem to keep indicating to our vulnerable, trusting children that it IS possible to achieve that ideal state. There is real wisdom in keeping the Church OUT of the whole business. Historically, religions tend to divide people rather than uniting them. And putting more emphasis on one religious system over others, as a political ideal, takes that divisive quality and multiplies it several fold.
Let’s state this again. Just as humanity created marriage so that money and property could be transferred in an orderly fashion, so we created families to insure that responsibility for care of family members can be assigned and enforced. Under such a system, socially disenfranchised Dads and Moms often want to run away, because they can't shoulder the burden that has been placed on their shoulders. At the same time, rich folks assume that everything is just fine, because THEIR kids have food on the table and clothes on their back.
It's all illusion. YOU get to be "family" to me, but HE doesn't. THESE children, we must not leave them behind, but THOSE children can die starving, and it’s okay.
MY wife, YOUR kids, OUR country, Third World, New World Order, THEIR problems, My rights, and a child's head spins 'round and 'round with it all, especially this new breed, who feel things so much more intensely than previous generations.
Do you know what the definition of a "normal" family is these days? Dysfunctional. Anything more harmonious would be considered exceptional. You touch the front door of ANY house, on ANY block in the world. At some point in time, it will BLEED. Why not just tell our kids that, rather than perpetuating a dead myth? The cure for disillusionment is NOT the installation of new illusions. It is TRUTH, spoken in the kindest and clearest way.
And here's another thought to throw into the mix: People are not always what they seem to be. Life in the 21st Century requires folks to wear many "hats" in order to dispatch ALL the responsibilities which come their way. A diversity of hats means a diversity of MASKS to go along with them. We can believe in the mask for however long is required, then rest in the knowledge of what we already know about people. We tend to screw things up - a lot!
The Age Of Grace
I entitled this article "Family of the Heart" because heart energy is the primary medicine needed for what ails humanity today. With the advent of technology, we entered an Information Age. Our brains and our data banks are now crammed full with knowledge, and more is coming in every day. What we lack, in many instances, is the necessary wisdom and sensitivity to go along with it. There is also an abundance of PASSION loose in the world: passion for power, passion for wealth, passion for political attainment, and, of course, passion for each other.
The HUMAN HEART is a mixing and mingling place for both INTELLECT and PASSION. When I say this, I am not just referring to a physical organ. I speak instead of essences and energies commonly attributed to the Heart Chakra, such as the giving and receiving of affection, personal fairness, tolerance, compassion, and love. These are BINDING FORCES, too, though the binding is of a different nature than Law. And employing it wisely tends to produce far different results.
In the next segment, I will speak more about Families of the Heart, which build themselves all around our existing paradigm—with promise of increasing its potential several times over. Have a great rest of the summer!
© 2007, Daniel Jacob
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ABOUT THE AUTHORDaniel Jacob is a conscious channel, writer, and a Bio-Energetic Body Worker who lives in the Greater Seattle area. He owns and operates Myo-Rehab Therapy Associates - a multi-therapy clinic - in Kirkland, Washington, which specializes in muscular rehabilitation, stress management, and personal transition work. He has been in practice for 22 years. On 11/11/91, he began working with a group of energies that called themselves "The Reconnections."
Daniel has developed a complete archive of information that has come through them on a number of relevant topics. Daniel and his Associates have been doing research with people around the world, collating data and comparing notes on the topics of Physical Transmutation and Earth Changes. He has produced a 2-Part CD, on which he explains the story of "The Star Children" in depth. He calls it a "tonal infusion for the New Age." For more information about Daniel and his work visit www.thestarchildren.com, www.reconnections.net, or e-mail him directly at: email@example.com