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THE TIME COMES FOR US TO SPEAK at length about The Big "R": Relationship.

We spoke earlier about the innocence of childhood, and the purity of a child's experience of physical sensation and connections in love. We also spoke about early childhood abuse - whether verbal, physical, or sexual - and the hidden contractual benefits of same. We have seen a whole host of bright souls/stars, born onto the Earth Plane who have been suppressed, for a time, through the installation of "scar(e) tissue" around those tender connection points between persons. Shut down, as it were, until the timing of their Reconnection draws near!

Now, let us turn to another form of inversion for Spiritual/Sexual Power, which is Human Relationship - especially those formats for relating that emphasize the concept of "commitment." As we begin to realize the incredible power that is stored up inside a Reconnecting Human, we are less and less amazed by the amount of "Dark Forces" that are employed to keep him or her from awakening too soon, thereby blowing apart the Grand 3D Experiment before its end goals are accomplished. Little by little, we see that the definitions of "darkness and light" take on a whole new meaning when seen from the viewpoint of Universal Oneness.

Another agency for enlistment into physical form involves deep and abiding connections with other humans - family, friends, lovers, children - who serve as "seat belts," to anchor us into physical reality, and keep us on course. And we speak of ourselves as "committed" to them, as reasons to live, because we just might depart without the sense of purpose they bring to our existence.

The term "intercourse" is a revealing one. Two paths (two courses for living) choose to become intertwined, less they individually go asunder, through connecting to the Big Picture too soon. So, two partners will conspire together to create and become absorbed in a "little picture," all their own, which both find compelling, sometimes dramatic, and utterly absorbing of mind and emotion! It is a term that is applied both to speech (talking and sharing), and also to sexual bonding as well.

Normally, the usage of the term "commitment," in society, refers to a locking up of crazy people or criminals! Indeed, could it be possible that there are souls who would, indeed, go "crazy" if they did not have something (or someone) to absorb the intense focus of their waking minds?

MONOGAMY AND FIDELITY
The Reconnections tell us that those who emphasize the need for fidelity in relationship most are also the same ones who would tend to violate it quickest if the bonds of "holy matrimony" are left open. It's a mystery, is it not? Whenever we concern ourselves with someone "cheating" on a promise to us, or demand control over his or her life choices - it is OUR OWN MOTIVES that are suspect.

In Oneness Consciousness, my 3D world is my mirror.

Anais Nin tells us: "We don't see the world as it is. We see the world as WE are."

Master Jesus told us: "Why concern yourself with taking the speck out of your neighbor's eye? Why not take the LOG out of your own eye first? THEN you can see clearly to take the speck of your neighbor's eye."

The beauty of 3D is that we get to see and deal with our "life issues," up close and in a personal way. We manifest them in physical form to keep ourselves occupied, and teach us perspective. The lovers we tend to attract, and be committed unto, usually tend to symbolize that which we have forgotten about ourselves.

The "fidelity" aspect of love and marriage - especially if it goes on for any length of time - will normally serve one of two purposes. Either it will provoke one or both partners to engage in clandestine "affairs," in order to keep their passion alive, or it will encourage both partners to gradually put their sexual energy "to sleep," so that it can be sublimated into other channels.

With very few exceptions, the old adage "familiarity breeds contempt" is a huge causative factor for the decline of sexual chemistry as life partnerships progress. In other words, people simply bind themselves "together" so tightly that they bore their sexual selves to death. If, for religious or other purposes, two people actually succeed in sidestepping sexual involvement outside of marriage, their Spirituality and Sex Interface (and Pathway to Reconnection) can drop so low that many folks report (when you catch them in a truly "honest" frame of mind) barely feeling alive.

WAKING THE "BEAST"
When the time arrives for one or both partners in a relationship to wake up and smell the coffee (in regards to Spirituality and Sex) it can often seem like a "beast" is released in their midst! If one person elects to open up "Pandora's Box," the other one has to look inside there too. The "quickening" can either take the form of a personal awakening to passion - as is so beautifully portrayed in the motion picture "Unfaithful," starring Richard Gere and Diane Lane - or it can involve a sudden surge of curiosity and focus on spiritual inquiry and personal inner expansion.

Either one of these activities can cause stress in a marriage, especially in the life of the partner who seeks to keep things calm, and maintain the status quo. And they can cause a huge sense of betrayal, which is often emphasized and exploited to continue holding that "wandering soul" in place. However, that is mere illusion. What one person does, while in relationship, is automatically a reflection of the "shadow aspect" of the other. After all, they are ONE BEING, are they not?

People tend to break out of their commitments when the Time of Reconnection arrives. After all, at our hearts, we are free and infinite beings. When the time comes, we will step over boundaries, forsake promises, and do whatever is necessary to peck our way out of our self-designed "shells" of forgetfulness and denial. Even though God, Religion and Society COMMAND that we DO NOT EAT the fruits of those "forbidden trees"...we, like Eve, will not be able to resist. We will be like moths to a flame, and our marriages can go up in smoke unless those we have chosen to "sleep with" for many years also choose to awaken with us.

RELATIONSHIP DURING RECONNECTION
Not all relationships need to go up in smoke when the Time of Reconnection arrives. Some of them transform or, at least, they make an effort to do so. Some couples go to great lengths to stay together as the Spirituality and Sex Interface begins to re-open. They lay aside pre-determined "rules," they seek counseling, and they bend and flex with the gathering winds of their awakening inner nature.

There are times when sustaining a relationship during an awakening can be a beautiful thing to watch. At other times, onlookers simply shake their heads, and wonder about the sanity of those involved. So be it. When a transforming caterpillar becomes ready to drop the cocoon, its struggle for freedom is what readies the wings to take flight. Childbirth often involves pain and messiness. Isn't that really what we're talking about here? An Awakening Human is actually giving birth to his or her CORE SELF.

The expansion of Sexuality, especially during the Process of Reconnection has far more to do with ENERGY than overt acts of love or passion. If they choose, couples can let the process gradually transform them - together - and the Guides have specific insights to deal with this. In one segment of the Series, they tell us:

When committed couples, in your current culture, go in for "Sex Therapy," it is often because one or both of them feels that sex has become "dull and flat." The frequency of their lovemaking has, perhaps, dwindled down to almost nothing, in comparison to the beginning of the relationship.

It is not unusual for a Sex Therapist, beginning work with just such a couple, to actually require that they cease, for a time, any practice of "normal sexual relations," in favor of softening the nature and quality of their interactions together. We are speaking here about simple touch, staring into each other's eyes, being together in romantic settings. Simple touching, no "sex" by your present standards. In this way, a couple learns to de-emphasize the issue of "performance" or the repetition of certain "acts," in favor of expanding and adjusting their overall sexual attitude towards each other.

In a more liberal and non-traditional environment, a Sex Therapist may be replaced by a Priest or Priestess of the Goddess Traditions, seeking to install a new viewpoint about making love (which is also a very old one). As mentioned in Part 1, the newest evolution of sexual expression and appreciation will be to expand localized focus and sensitivity from specified "sexual areas" in yourselves and diffuse it throughout the whole body.

Those who are "Tantric" in their orientation, will seek to use sexual arousal to produce Kundalini Activation in the root chakra and carry that energy up the spinal canal to the heart, throat, and intuitive areas, rather than ejaculate it into another person. In this way, one's overall spiritual connection can be enhanced and amplified, creating a clear channel of unfettered communication between the intuitive and primal levels of human energy.

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There is more than one way to peel a grape, or a banana for that matter. The Spirituality and Sex Interface is an inward one, which expresses itself outwardly. It is not the other way around. If it appears to be so, then we are not speaking about a genuine Awakening to Power, are we? We've merely taken the "Game" to another level.

As the Energy Rises, and Kundalini is aroused, any pretense that has been formed around the idea of "staying together for the sake of the kids (or whatever)" will be gradually burned away. That is the nature of "The Beast." The Urge to Merge (with everything and everyone) becomes all encompassing. Anything that gets in the way of it will fall by the wayside. However, that which supports and amplifies this awakening will definitely survive...and even flourish!

Over the years, I have seen incredible resurrections of power and passion in relationships when they become founded upon a growing spiritual purpose in life. We are speaking here about THE GREAT WORK, and its ripple effects upon everyone and everything that surrounds it. Even if a relationship begins with the idea of "you and me against the world," and then falters...it can be powerfully renewed when the idea of "you and me AS the world" gets installed at its core.

LETTING GO OF DRAMA TRAUMA
The Limitation Dramas that flow in and out of domestic situations are very seductive and engaging. The assignment of the roles of "victim" and "perpetrator" are rampant in society these days. They are meant to be that way, in order to distract and hold two (or more) people here in physical form. Yet, once a person or group of persons gets "turned on" to the expanded reality of All-As-One, and a genuine Spirituality and Sex Interface, old dramas simply lose their power and magnetism.

It is possible (and even desirable) for folks to band together, to receive warmth and sustenance during their Time of Reconnection. Sooner or later we begin to understand that any changes that may have to happen in regards to our "commitments," as we grow in faith, have less to do with our love for each other, and far more to do with the FORMATS in which we express it.

There IS a whole new format that is emerging today, as more and more people COME ONLINE with the Spirit and Sex Interface. We will talk about it next month, taking care to examine a few of the "pitfalls" that can occur when couples and families are in transition.

In the meantime, I trust you have all enjoyed (and survived!) the Holidays and are ready for a bright New Year! If any of you have comments to make about this series, I am very open to hear them.

Onward and Inward! More to come.